Skip to main content

Posts

Life coaches and mentors: Should you get one?

Good day, my love bugs. You most likely have developed your habits, routines, and discipline. You may feel as though you are doing what you can on an individual level, you keep on improving and have set the vision. You just may be struggling with taking the next step and not knowing what move to make. You could have made the move, are in a different phase in your life, and want some guidance. Have you considered getting a life coach or a mentor? The similarities between a mentor and a life coach Life coaches and mentors share the goal of helping individuals develop and reach their full potential by providing guidance, support, and accountability. They both rely on active listening, constructive feedback, and building a trusting relationship with their client/mentee. The key area of both is development as they aim to help individuals identify areas for improvement and work towards personal and professional growth. Empowerment is also a key focus area for mentors and life coaches, they a...
Post a Comment
Read more
Recent posts

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Good day, my love bugs. Have you made your 2025 vision board yet? If not, there is no judgment yet. I want us to discuss what we should bring into the new year and what we should not bring into the new year. Firstly, Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing repeatedly but expecting a different result. If, in the past, certain behaviors, environments, people, and conversations were not yielding the change you wanted to see, then maybe it is time you do things differently. Big changes are the result of small steps. You may find that you set goals and have momentum, but somewhere along the way, you lose the momentum. This is usually normal, when we set new goals, we are excited, well-rested, and motivated, but then life gets in the way, and we lose track of everything. Do not throw in the towel early, and do not give up if the results are slow in coming. There is a beauty when things take their natural due course. Do you sometimes think of things that you wanted in the past and ...
Post a Comment
Read more

We may have to do this again

Good day, my love bugs. What if I told you that healing is not linear? What if I told you that there is not one big jackpot at the end? What if I told you that just as unpredictable as life is, so is healing? There are no incentives in the healing journey just reflection. At times healing feels like regression and can feel like a cycle of feeling immense contentment and hopelessness. So will the journey ever come to an end? I am still figuring it out but here are some tips about the healing journey you want to know. You are not better than anyone because you embarked on a healing journey. There is a sense of superiority that ‘pop psychology’ can give you which is going to be the downfall of mental health awareness. You should by all means share your good experiences with other people and even encourage people to embark on their healing journeys. However, you do not get to tell anyone that they are less than you or even look down on someone who is not on the same journey as you. Our jou...
Post a Comment
Read more

Keep sane this festive

Good day, my love bugs. It is the festive season, and most people spend time with loved ones. Home is not also a place that many people look forward to, and if you have made the decision to spend this festive season by yourself, I am proud of you. Here are some useful tips for taking care of your mental health during the festive season 1. Set realistic expectations Am I the only one who feels like the feeling of the festive season has changed over the years? Do not conform to the pressure to create a holiday spirit or to have as good a festive season as the previous years. If we are also keeping it a buck, the holiday spirit that everyone celebrates is mostly created by women in the family who labor for it. Try focusing on the moments that matter most. By setting realistic expectations you relieve yourself from stress and pressure 2. Practice self-care Do not neglect your self-care routine during the holidays, considering that you have spent the majority of the year working on it. Cont...
Post a Comment
Read more

The smart to average kid pipeline

My inspiration for this post came from a YouTube video titled ' You were a gifted kid 7 years ago. Now what?' by David Achu, I will link it down below. I won't toot my horn but I was a pretty smart kid. I got most of the awards in primary school and early on in high school. Being smart was my brand until fast forward to late high school and varsity. I know I am not the only one who has had this experience so let's take a lot into the dynamic of being a smart kid, overachiever, or even a child genius. You are not smart, you score well. The public school system in South Africa is focused more on feeding information to children rather than teaching students. The teachers are under pressure, schools are overcrowded and resources are limited. So, the system bases which children are bright on who can memorize the most information and who can get the highest scores. I mean scores do matter, APS/GPA matter and it also determines what you study in the future and...
Post a Comment
Read more

The Overthinker Society

This post is for the people who have to make it. This is for the people who are grateful for their blessings but feel tired, conflicted, confused, and overworked. I decided to talk about overthinking because I am an overthinker. I actually do not struggle with overthinking I do very well with it. I have been overthinking about this post. I have been overthinking my writing and my whole life in general and I know I am not the only one who does this. I have been facing sleeplessness this past two weeks and I read on PharmEasy that overthinking disrupts sleep. I have been more stressed than ever and now I struggle with getting a good night’s rest. This is because your body does not allow you to sleep when your mind is not at peace. Ruminating on almost everything and worrying constantly about things over which you have little or no control often lead to fewer hours of sleep. We are our own worst critics, overthinking is often a result who having been continuously disappointed in the pa...
Post a Comment
Read more

Spiritual bypassing and its danger to mental health

Kendra Cherry on Verywellmind describes spiritual bypassing as a tendency to use spiritual explanation to avoid complex psychological issues. My main issue with spiritual bypassing is the notion that one's struggle with mental health is a result of not practicing religion or spirituality enough. It is no surprise that when a person is going through a tough time they lean more on their spirituality and there is nothing wrong with that. However, it has come to my attention over the years how people use spirituality to deflect their trauma. Deflecting trauma Our brains work in amazing ways the human body is built to be sufficient. Our brain will block out certain events because it is trying to protect us from psychological stress. Spiritual bypassing is a way the self-harm or to promote harmony between people mentions Cherry. Spirituality is a force that helps an individual well-being however spiritual bypassing does not resolve the issue it merely glosses over the problem. Facing y...
Post a Comment
Read more