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Keep sane this festive

Good day, my love bugs. It is the festive season, and most people spend time with loved ones. Home is not also a place that many people look forward to, and if you have made the decision to spend this festive season by yourself, I am proud of you. Here are some useful tips for taking care of your mental health during the festive season 1. Set realistic expectations Am I the only one who feels like the feeling of the festive season has changed over the years? Do not conform to the pressure to create a holiday spirit or to have as good a festive season as the previous years. If we are also keeping it a buck, the holiday spirit that everyone celebrates is mostly created by women in the family who labor for it. Try focusing on the moments that matter most. By setting realistic expectations you relieve yourself from stress and pressure 2. Practice self-care Do not neglect your self-care routine during the holidays, considering that you have spent the majority of the year working on it. Cont...
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The smart to average kid pipeline

My inspiration for this post came from a YouTube video titled ' You were a gifted kid 7 years ago. Now what?' by David Achu, I will link it down below. I won't toot my horn but I was a pretty smart kid. I got most of the awards in primary school and early on in high school. Being smart was my brand until fast forward to late high school and varsity. I know I am not the only one who has had this experience so let's take a lot into the dynamic of being a smart kid, overachiever, or even a child genius. You are not smart, you score well. The public school system in South Africa is focused more on feeding information to children rather than teaching students. The teachers are under pressure, schools are overcrowded and resources are limited. So, the system bases which children are bright on who can memorize the most information and who can get the highest scores. I mean scores do matter, APS/GPA matter and it also determines what you study in the future and...
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The Overthinker Society

This post is for the people who have to make it. This is for the people who are grateful for their blessings but feel tired, conflicted, confused, and overworked. I decided to talk about overthinking because I am an overthinker. I actually do not struggle with overthinking I do very well with it. I have been overthinking about this post. I have been overthinking my writing and my whole life in general and I know I am not the only one who does this. I have been facing sleeplessness this past two weeks and I read on PharmEasy that overthinking disrupts sleep. I have been more stressed than ever and now I struggle with getting a good night’s rest. This is because your body does not allow you to sleep when your mind is not at peace. Ruminating on almost everything and worrying constantly about things over which you have little or no control often lead to fewer hours of sleep. We are our own worst critics, overthinking is often a result who having been continuously disappointed in the pa...
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Spiritual bypassing and its danger to mental health

Kendra Cherry on Verywellmind describes spiritual bypassing as a tendency to use spiritual explanation to avoid complex psychological issues. My main issue with spiritual bypassing is the notion that one's struggle with mental health is a result of not practicing religion or spirituality enough. It is no surprise that when a person is going through a tough time they lean more on their spirituality and there is nothing wrong with that. However, it has come to my attention over the years how people use spirituality to deflect their trauma. Deflecting trauma Our brains work in amazing ways the human body is built to be sufficient. Our brain will block out certain events because it is trying to protect us from psychological stress. Spiritual bypassing is a way the self-harm or to promote harmony between people mentions Cherry. Spirituality is a force that helps an individual well-being however spiritual bypassing does not resolve the issue it merely glosses over the problem. Facing y...
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A lot can happen in a year: Editor's Note

Good day my love bugs. These editor’s notes are me just scribbling my thoughts to you guys so if it is all over the place, forgive me. I think I have been having a creative or a writer’s block. Trust me I have been wanting to write and the words have been in my brain but putting pen to paper has been hard. Now that the honeymoon phase of the year is over dealing with real life has been difficult. My mental health has been going through its usual cycles, on some days I am super productive, happy, and motivated and then there are days when I do not want to go to bed. I have also been having intense neck pain which is now back pain ever since I stopped writing my exams. The fear of failure has been creeping up on me so has doubt and this is normal. I also still struggle with perfectionism and have a way of constantly worrying about the future, particularly what I am going to be next year. It is deep but it is also not that deep, I think I have a complicated life when my life i...
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So you want to start therapy...

Good day, my love bugs. I put up an Instagram poll a while back on my wellness page @ acreatorswrite and I asked you guys what is the one thing you want to try or do in 2024. The majority of the response was therapy. As someone who has been in therapy since high school and someone who works in social services, I know that therapy can sound so overwhelming. Let us dismantle some of the myths that are associated with therapy. 1. Every journey starts with acceptance In the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous , the first step is to admit that you have a problem. This is similar to therapy because denial does not take you anywhere with any journey be it a fitness journey or a spiritual journey- you have to admit that there is something you have to address, a truth you are running away from, or an unresolved trauma that you have to deal with in therapy. Acceptance also comes with accountability in therapy you are going to have to own up to everything you ...
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You have nothing to prove

Good day, my love bugs. If you live in South Africa you know that Autumn is here which means that my birthday month is also here. Shout out to all of the Aries out there you are truly one of a kind! I become reflective every year around this time looking at all the time that has gone and what is to come. I get severe birthday anxiety, I am a big believer in birthdays and I am extremely excited the whole month of April but after my birthday there is also a sigh of relief. It is me wanting that day to be perfect and sitting in anticipation of the messages, the calls, and who reaches out. I am an adult now well in legal terms I am an adult and have been for some time now but I swear I still feel like a teenager. I do not think I make 'adult' decisions I just live life man. As a last born who spent so many years being the baby of the family, I find it hard to navigate adulthood my biggest fear is that I am going to be a disappointment which I am not and will never be but I struggle...
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