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Good day, my love bugs. The beginning of the year is usually a season of reflecting and planning for the next coming months. In last year's post, I emphasized that your vision board is yours, it is also subject to change at any time. You can plan your vision board however you want to. Here are some tips that you can implement in the goals that you have set up this year. Your intent is important. When listing the things you want to achieve this year, your intent is important. Write out why next to each goal. This is going to help you choose the goals that are most fitting to you and not the goals that society says we should have. This will also help you in narrowing your focus instead of having 20 vague goals, for example, being in the best shape you would rather start with getting that gym membership or looking at beginner at-home workouts. The 'why' is also what will keep you motivated in times when things do not go that well, when you feel like giving up, or when you are...

Good day, my love bugs. We must not be afraid to talk about our experiences however we also need to set ourselves free from the shame that comes with it. I have always been a 'smart' kid and I lived by academic validation. It was what pleased my family, and teachers and it became what I was known for. Fast forward to me being in university and failing a module in my first year. What a humbling experience that was it took a blow to my self-esteem and for the first time in my life my family saw me as human. They were not pleased with my failing but what that experience did for me was to show them that I too struggle and I am not perfect. Life does not always go as planned and at times we make mistakes. You can grow from mistakes and move past them but what if everyone is still seeing you as your mistake? Well, in the great words of Gugulethu Nyatsumba a YouTuber and host of the podcast After School Is After School “If someone is wanting to keep you at a certain pla...

Good day, my love bugs. Happy New Year! I spoke to a friend the other day and she told me that you cannot hate yourself into becoming the person that you want to be. This made me think about how we are not moving forward because we are still caught up in the mistakes that we made.  According to Verywellmind  self-forgiveness is not necessarily about letting yourself off the hook it is also not a sign of weakness. It is an important step that you are taking for your mental health. Self-forgiveness means that you are accepting what has happened and you are willing to move past it without ruminating over past events that cannot be changed. There can be many reasons why you are struggling to forgive yourself it could be that you are worried that you are going to make the same mistake again or you are worried about how facing your actions might damage your self-esteem.  Depending on the magnitude of the mistake(s) and who it has impacted forgiving yourself might not seem like ...