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Editors Note: The multifaceted babe, burnout, perfectionism and social media culture.

Good day, my love bugs.

Can spring get here already? I am ready to wear my sundress.

I have been taking some time to think about all of the goals that I had set for this year and I came across a podcast episode on the To My Sisters YouTube channel. I love this podcast and recommend it. In this episode, they were talking about being a multi-faceted babe, which is very popular on social media this means you have different aspects to you, to your interests or you work different careers. 

This is not an issue primarily, there is a famous saying that goes ‘An idle mind is the devil's playground' We have to have hobbies, and we have to keep our minds stimulated and our bodies moving however, with this generation of social media, being multifaceted is put on the extreme. Considering the capitalist system and how the world economies are functioning, it is wise to have more than one stream of income. It would also be great if everyone could live well financially but this becomes an issue when it is at the cost of your health. Social media culture promotes, working tirelessly for a dream life that you will see curated on an Instagram page.

I support the girls getting their bags, I support the girls for wanting to demolish poverty. However, there is a cost to pay for being an over-achiever, trust me I would know. I also end up putting so much on my plate that I feel overwhelmed but I have found that there is more to being an overachiever than we pay attention to.

 According to Eden, the health retreat, overachieving is never being satisfied with your accomplishments, you always strive for more and rarely reward yourself for your work. You harshly criticize yourself, you only care about the outcome, you never take time off and you are most definitely a perfectionist. Overachieving also stems from a place of feeling insecure and inadequate.
Being an overachiever has a serious impact on your physical and mental health, you may experience low appetite, poor sleep, headaches, fatigue, depression, and a weaker immune system. What is the point of putting in all this work, just for you to not be satisfied with yourself? You need to take a step back and change your outlook. A journal prompt that could help is “What kind of life do I want to live?” 

Do you want to look back at your life and only remember yourself stressed and stuck in a job you do not like, making money that you are not going to spend? Or do you want to remember your days to be full of adventure, laughter, and good memories? I am not saying you should not be multifaceted, embrace it but practice acceptance. Most good things take time, perfection is an illusion, and live your life for you. Get plenty of plenty of rest, and spoil yourself once in a while.

Till next time, Cheers!
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