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Elusive happiness

Good day, my love bugs.

I hope that Spring ushers you in well.
In the past few months, I have been thinking about being happy/happiness. I have been wondering if there will be a time when we are constantly happy. I think that is humanly impossible considering that life is not positive all the time. More so, we think of happiness as an outcome of something that we are doing or going to achieve. For, example we think we will be happy when we attain a degree, when we have a lot of money in the bank, or when we get married.
The one thing that everyone has correct about being happy is that it is an inside job. Nothing or one is going to make you happy besides yourself. This is why it is important to spend time with yourself so that you can know exactly what you want. Happiness has become so elusive for most of us because we have never realized how much we have been chasing it away. We look for it in the wrong places and the wrong people. Happiness has all to do with the present, we spend our time looking so far ahead, focused on the future that we fail to see what is in front of us.
According to Psychology Today, it would not be adaptive to be happy all the time. We work very hard to reach a goal, anticipating the happiness it will bring. Once we achieve the goal, we go back to our way of being. Our past and future are not always better than the present, yet we continue to think that way. There are also many connotations to being happy that we do not consider. Firstly, contentment, how will we ever be happy if we do not learn how to be content? How will be happy until we realize that not everything is under control? Secondly, gratitude, we cannot be happy until we recognize the many things in our lives which are blessings. The small things, like the fact that you can go to university or that all of your limbs are working.
There is no finite definition of happiness. What is important is being present, so the next time you look at the sunset, drink your coffee, watch your favorite series, or eat some ice cream. Remember that there is no moment like the present, you are exactly where you need to be, you are exactly who you need to be in this moment.
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