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All about Solo Dates

On the theme of self-love, you must try taking yourself out on a date. Solo dates are an occasion where you do something just for yourself. You can consciously go on a solo date or go on a whim. I love solo dates because it is a time when you can spend by yourself. You are not forced to make conversations or to be time conscious. You spend so much time putting others before yourself the time has come to put yourself first. You need to learn to love your company solo dates are the place to start. 

Think about it, when going on a lunch date with friends or a dinner with someone special, you go all out. You plan an outfit, hair, make-up the works. How about you put all of that effort to take yourself out? Crazy, right? You are probably thinking about all of the people who are going to be looking at you but if we only knew how little time human beings spend thinking about us we would care less.

 Solo dates look different for everyone. You decide what it means to you. Also if you want to meet people or make friends you should try going to an activity you like alone and socializing. Solo dates are not only for single people, I recommend that everyone do this at least once in their lifetime. Chances are that your first solo date will be awkward but the more solo dates you go on the better. There are so many solo date ideas online make sure that you find what works for you. You do not need to break the bank. 
Here are some of my favorites.

A coffee date with a book or journal. I love coffee and as you might have noticed from this blog reading and journaling are my things too. Being in a different environment brings much-needed excitement, relief, and peace. Take time like this to reflect and show gratitude.
A solo wine and paint session. I highly recommend it. Sip and paints are an activity I wished I started earlier. I heard of them last year and no one seemed to want to try them out so I went to an arts and craft shop, got some supplies, and started painting. You can play your favorite playlist and look for painting inspiration on Pinterest or anywhere online.
A content-inspired or picture date. I saw a meme that said ‘Sometimes I wish I could step out of myself and take my own damn pictures.’ Well, this is the chance to do that go out and take some aesthetically pleasing pictures. Also, if you are reading this, please donate money so that your girl can buy a camera. Thank you in advance.
Dinner date. Make a reservation, put on your Sunday best, and go to a new restaurant. You can also cook dinner for yourself, set up some candlelights, and try a new recipe.
Brunch out. Not a morning person and like breakfast food so brunches work for me. You can go to any local café and eat up.
Taking a walk. I bet you did not know this can be a solo date. I know at times one can get cabin fever and you just need to see some trees. Jacarandas are growing around the city at this time, talking a walk is about being in the present. It is also about taking a breather I know it sounds zen but you also get the physical benefits.
Going to a bookstore. Another one of my favorites. Bookstores are mini-paradises and some have cafes in them too. Just choose a book from a genre that you like or try something new. Honestly go wild, you are by yourself and spend as much time as you needed.

Do you see how simple these are? You can also add on or tell me about your faves below or send me a dm. There is just something so liberating about going on a solo date, I promise you will not regret it. Many of the restaurants that I consider to be my favorite hangout spots were solo dates. I want to take it to the next level and do solo travel.

Till next time, Cheers!

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